Dating your husband

One thing you will not hear me talk much about is single life. I just really can't relate personally to a single life before by husband, because that would refer to my childhood. You think I am kidding? We started dating when I was fourteen and he was thirteen (we are only 3 months apart though). And though we did have our share of  "break ups" I still wouldn't call our months apart "single life".
Anyways, while I do feel confident that I can give good advice on dating and relationships, I wont pretend like I know what being single and dating feels like. I will however tell you how to date the most important man in your life. That man being your husband.
Date your husband? I must be kidding right? Who has time to date their husband?
Well I do. And you do too. You might look around at your life, house, kids, pets, and think that there is so much to do, so little time. But you have to remember who the building blocks are, that keep that household together. It's a small equation, you plus him.
This should go without saying but can obviously go for any relationship, whether you are dating, or married.
Our household is busy, every day there is something on the calendar. But you still need to take time to nourish your relationships. If you a baby, and you aren't ready to leave them quite yet, then you need to figure out how you can carve out some one on one time with your significant other. You can't go too long putting it off or it becomes a habit and you will not want to go down that road.
I am not telling you to get a babysitter and go out every weekend. I am just saying that you need to carve out time for your "plus one" if you don't want to wind up being a "one".
Whether you set aside a night to watch a movie with a bowl of popcorn, or get a babysitter for a couple hours while you two run a few errands and grab some ice cream, you have to be creative in finding time together.
I get messages all the time asking what our secret is, or how are you so happy? Well it really isn't that hard. You have to remember why you fell in love, why you wanted to marry your partner. You can't just let life pass you by and remain a passenger in your own life. Grab the wheel and take control.
I understand your exhausted. My 3 1/2 year old still doesn't sleep through the night. I get it. But taking time to look at your partner and give them a couple hours of undivided attention each week is not too much to ask.
Here are five things I challenge you to do every single day, and I promise you will feel your love grow in your relationship:
1. Always kiss good bye, and say I love you. Even if one of you is still sleeping when the other leaves.
2. Always stop what you are doing and greet each other when you get home, with a hug and a kiss.
3. Put down the phones, and turn off the TV during dinner.
4. Always respond to your partners thoughts, questions, comments. Do not ignore what they are saying, or eventually they may just stop trying to communicate with you.
5. Dance. EVERY SINGLE DAY. We blast the music and dance as a family every single day. Not only does it bring smiles, laughs, and joy. It pushes aside reality for a few moments.

P.S. If you are struggling to find a babysitter, consider doing a child swap. It is seriously one of the greatest things ever. It makes your date night even better when you don't have to worry about paying someone. If you watch their child while they get a date night in, then they return the favor. Simple as that!