Don't stop at "stay at home mom"

It's interesting how some people view "stay at home moms". What a life, you don't have to go to work? You don't have to leave the house? You get to catch up on all your shows during naptime?   You get to go on play dates and socialize with other moms?
WRONG!
The day of a "stay at home mom" is far from that. You are surrounded by little people who talk about boogers, poop, and you hear "I am hungry, I want cartoons, etc." all day. By 9am your house is clean and vacuumed, but by noon it is destroyed again. Your kitchen is constantly in disarray because you cook three meals, plus all the snacks. If you get the chance to have a playdate, your children are so thoughtful  that your  adult  conversation is interrupted at least ten times in five minutes.
In just this short paragraph I have been interrupted six times by my kiddos.
When I became a SAHM (stay at home mom) I went crazy. My social needs went through withdrawals. Prior to kids, I have always had very social jobs, with a very social life. Having these withdrawals led to two things happening. First thing, fighting with the hubby. He would come home from work and I would talk his ear off and need the social interaction. Or I would be watching the clock, waiting for him to call on his lunch break. It drove me crazy! The other thing that happened was facebook groups. I joined so many mom facebook groups, and followed so many bloggers, I would find myself caught up in the internet drama. It was exhausting!
That's when I finally realized things had to change.
I went back to work one day a week, then worked up to three days a week. I traded child care with a friend and my hubby watched our son, so I didn't have to pay for daycare or a nanny.
I had an interactive social life again!
I also took my son to story time, play dates, and then when he turned two, we joined a preschool. I also started to nanny again, and then started my own photography business. Life became busy again. And I became happy. And you know what they say "happy wife, happy life". lol. And my hubby and I stopped fighting.
I am contributing financially, I am busy, my kids are happy, and my relationship healthy.
Did you know that the number one cause of divorce is money problems?
I am not saying that you can't be a SAHM but if you are having issues, like I was having, I encourage you to find passions that do not revolve around your husband/wife, or kids. Find yourself again. You aren't just a "mom" or a "wife".
Be the you, you want to be!