All new parents are crazy

Now that was a title to grab your attention. You are probably wondering if that is really what I am writing about. And the answer to that questions is: YES. I really am going to tell you about how crazy all new parents are.
It is perfectly normal to be crazy. Well, a crazy new parent that is. Your entire world is changing and all of a sudden, every decision you make is a critical one. Where are you going to give birth? How are you going to give birth? Are you going to delay clamping? How will you feed your baby? Where will your baby sleep? Circumcision? Vaccines? Carseats? etc.
The hardest thing about all these decisions is that there is an option you are NOT choosing, which means that you will have people who do not agree with you. And guess what? That is completely okay.
I can remember people, strangers, having complete opinions about the fact that we did not know the sex of our babies. Like seriously concerned about how we will decorate or prepare. Well we did that twice and survived just fine. Or people being concerned at our choice of going to a midwife and birth center. I swear, every single person asked me how close we would be to a hospital.
Now I can't speak for new dads in this, but definitely new moms. When you are holding your newborn baby, completely sleep deprived, and they are asleep on you, but you don't want to move because god forbid that little monster wakes back up to nurse, (and you are sick of nursing already,) you decide to scroll social media on your phone. And this is when the crazy comes out...
You are scrolling and come across one of the hot topics. Let's use vaccines for example. There are trolls out there who are going to say "if you do not vaccinate you are the devil and deserve to die". Then there are trolls out there that say "if you put poison into your baby they will die and it will be your fault". Holy crap that is a lot to deal with. Now remember, you are sleep deprived. Your abilities to keep scrolling are not what they would be if you slept like a ... dad.. hahaha. (love you honey). So you engage. You start arguing with these trolls. You feel like crap, you're mad, hurt, you start questioning your choices, so then you start posting on your own page.
This is all normal. But no one thinks about it. They don't think about what you are going through. They just see the heat you are giving to support YOUR choice. Well, out comes the anger in family, friends, acquaintances, who do not agree with you.
Whether you are looking for support in breastfeeding in public, bedsharing, daycare, etc. Everyone has a different opinion and different circumstance.
So this is what you can do to salvage your relationships. To end the drama. You can realize that everyone is going through this, we are all "crazy new parents". And when someone posts something you do not agree with, simply show compassion by not engaging.
Today I was reminded of this. I have really tried to remember that there is a reason we are friends on social media. There is a reason you are a part of each others lives. I don't want my friends to be the same as me. I want them to confide in me and share their struggles and challenges and know that I will not judge them.
So next time you see a momma post about breastfeeding, or drinking coffee while pregnant. Instead of arguing, offer support. Know that we are all a little crazy and are trying to survive this thing called "life" together.